Making Healthy Sexual Decisions:

Getting Advice & Questions to Ask

Intro	Emergency Contraception
Talking With Your Partner	Sexual Orientation
Getting Advice & What to Ask	Quiz: Are You Ready for Sex?

Whom can I talk to about sex?

If you have questions about sex (whether or not you're thinking about having a sexual relationship) you should talk to your parent(s)/guardian(s), a trusted adult such as a school counselor, someone from your religious center/youth group, or your health care provider. It's a good idea to discuss all of your choices and any concerns you may have so that you can make healthy decisions. Deciding whether or not to have sex can be a difficult decision, so it's always good to have someone to talk to.

How do I find a health care provider to discuss birth control and STI protection?

Many young women and men can talk to their moms, dads, or guardians about these issues, while others need confidential services. You can talk to your primary care provider about birth control or STI protection. You also have the option of talking to a gynecologist, a healthcare provider (HCP) at a family planning clinic, or a HCP at a student health center or school clinic. You should feel comfortable with your HCP, since it is important to share personal information and any health problems with her/him. You need to find a provider who will listen to your concerns, answer your questions, and take the time to explain things clearly to you.

Make sure you know how to receive confidential, non-judgmental services when talking about your sexual choices and health.

Practice these questions to ask:

• Will the bill be sent to my house?
• If I'm covered by my parents' insurance, will they find out about examinations and tests that are done on me?
• What if I need birth control?
• Can you tell me what happens to my lab test results? Who do you call?
• What if I want to be tested for STI's such as gonorrhea, chlamydia, or HIV?
• What if you find out that I have an STI?
• What if you find out that I am pregnant?
• Is there any information that you are required to tell my parents/guardians?
• What happens if I have a big problem and need help telling my parents/guardians?
• What should I know about emergency contraception?

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Written and reviewed by the CYWH Staff at Children's Hospital Boston

Updated: 11/12/2010