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How do I tell my partner that I'm pregnant?

There's no one answer to this question. How you tell the person who got you pregnant depends upon your relationship with him. Are you in a long-term relationship with him, or is it more casual?

Has the relationship been mutually respectful, or has it been abusive? Is he someone from whom you can get support, or are you not sure? Are you certain that he IS the person who got you pregnant?

 

If you feel you have good communication with him, you might find a quiet space and time to share your news and begin talking about whatever might be the next step. If, however, you and he do not communicate well or you feel at all unsafe, you may choose to tell him only when you have the support of an adult, or not at all.

 

How do I tell my parent(s) or guardian(s) about being pregnant?

If you are pregnant, it's important for you to get health care as soon as possible so you can learn about your options. It's best to get support from your parent(s), guardian(s), or another trusted adult. If you're concerned about your safety, or afraid to tell your parents, you can first talk to an adult who you feel close to, or your health care provider. You can then decide whether you want the trusted adult or your health care provider to be with you when you tell them. You may decide to talk with your parent(s)/guardian(s) about making a decision about your pregnancy, or you may prefer to think about all your options first, and then talk with them.

 

What if I don’t want to tell my parents(s) or legal guardian(s) that I’m pregnant?

You have the right not to tell your parent(s) or legal guardian(s) that you are pregnant. Remember though, if you decide to continue the pregnancy, your parents will eventually find out. If you decide to have an abortion, talk with your health care provider about what the laws are in your state. Most parents are helpful and will help you think through your options and get you the medical care that you need.

 

Teens who are pregnant need a lot of support from important people in their lives. You’ll probably be nervous about having a conversation with your parent(s) or guardian(s) about such an important subject as pregnancy, (this is normal) but it's really important to do it as early as possible.

 

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Written and reviewed by the CYWH Staff at Boston Children's Hospital

 

Updated: 6/20/2013

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